GENTLE FREEDOM

( For parents who send children to Central Schools, borders and others)

Tears may be shed if your child leaves home to some far place, for schooling, training or work. Pain may be felt on departure, longing to keep them home, but it is a natural song we must follow while we live.

To go to school is a beginning of separation from naive nuisance we are when at home from the warm meals and caring mother. This is the beginning of a lesson in impermanence while getting deluded from the purity of childhood beauty. He begins to rejoice the independence of his freedom from parental discipline, and rejoices company of new friends. 

Neither the absence of warmth in his meals nor the presence of father seen to matter while he has a comrade to play and befriend. That I think is how they should grow, rather than chasing after them with exaggerated concern. What we identify as love in attending to all his paces may me an overbearing shadow to a child who would need natural space to feel the world with his own touch.

Too much care may cripple his little heart from nurturing the bravery of a man when encountering his own adversity. His adversaries shall be less challenged,  and that is when your son shall never learn to hone his talents to time his living.

Let them be free while you watch their freedom; and not fetter them to spoon and shoe laces all the time.