UNEDUCATED INTELLECTUALS: Those small people

When I learn about intellectuals who bad mouth about me behind my backs and about other people’s matters, I feel pity how their graduation academic certificates failed to make them great minds. 

How much do you know about my life from childhood to schools to colleges to marriage to career to habits and experiences I have lived through to believe in your talk about me? You only know what you heard and thought you saw!

Eleanor Roosevelt, an American diplomat and social activist said in one of her inspiring speech that-

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”

You don’t realise your talk about people and events, even ideas will relate to your own experience in life. No matter how factual and convincing you can be, that is your perspective, a sad perspective you waste time on. 

If you talk about someone’s life and work, attitude and behaviour, to your friends and family, it’s talking about other people. What do we get and how do we contribute towards their life’s wellbeing by talking about others? 

We should know that there are greater things to think; about policies and politics, laws and limitations, ideologies and philosophy, than bicker about others. It is a sign of wiser person to know that small remarks and conclusions we make about other peoples’ life in a group or to someone can have detrimental effect on them. 

Jeff Haden, a motivational speaker and professor at of Madison University write that ‘Emotionally intelligent people keep their feelings in check and embrace or at least put aside the discomfort..’ they would create for themselves or others by not learning beyond ignorance. The reason we talk others is because we get moved by emotions of other people. We do not know the history and experiences, the why and how beyond about the circumstance yet we become emotionally reactive.

It is a natural instinct for human being to socialize and gossip, and gossip to be mostly about other people. Our Stone Age ancestors indulged in similar plain talks. They had lesser capacity like thinkers to delve into profound thoughts. Some of us are intellectuals and academicians, doctors and teachers, leaders and parents, yet our mental behaviour is close to our hairy an ancestors.

When we become carriers of messages of other people, talking about other people, we lose sight of greater ideas and events to discuss for greater good. The small talks can disrupt other peoples’ homes, heart  and life. 

If we cannot stand as prove of evidence, if we cannot be clairvoyant, if we cannot rest others intent, past life and life today, we may only be becoming a hypocrite who makes assumptions. As intellectuals we must know that what we hear, read, see and become part of, even if hundreds tells, is part of the whole world of other persons.

I would read a good book or rather keep silent than to bicker about people.

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THE DAMAGE THOUGHTS CAN HAVOC

The quality of thoughts we nurture and gnaw persistently can have power to infuse happiness or to cause terminal ailments like cancer. You can’t blame anyone but your thoughts.

When your perspective about others changes, and begin to hate everything about them for reasons of your own, we cannot appreciate whatever good they do and tend to talk and write to demonstrate our hatred. 

Does that bring us inner spiritual well-being?

This hatred hurts our mental and physical wellbeing, not theirs. The cortical hormones and adrenaline pour sugar into our bloodstream, and the feeling of hatred harms the health of our kidney and liver, our skin and heart. The more we speak, write and think of the hateful experience, deeper it cuts within ourselves. It’s like a fish pulling against the hook; it only cuts deeper and traps it to death!

Hatred weakens our health, not theirs. We may think of them with enmity, but they would be drinking beer and rejoicing, singing at a karaoke and at some engaging gossip. If love our body, if we know our health is more important than to let it be harmed, we would compromise, forgive, calm and let go.

We yell at them, we write about them, we talk about them; and every time we do, our biology is disrupted. We live an abnormal state, we breath faster and shorter, and fatigue our body from the need of enough oxygen. Lesser oxygen our body gets, more lethargic we become, and more susceptible to illnesses, germs and senility.

When we allow circumstances to disrupt our feelings, we think about that circumstances through our perspectives, relating to example and experiences from the past. We begin to compare ourselves to others, we tend to compare our experiences with others’ experiences. 

What makes the feeling painful and emotionally overwhelming is a result of allowing thoughts to grow, to cling and to exaggerate. Thought is the king of nuisance on circumstance we can’t control. Our feeling become calmer and forgiving unless we allow thoughts to subside, calm and let go. 

The more we think of the situation and people who hurt us, who undermined and misunderstand us, betray and ridicule us, the more we begin to lose focus and reason, morality and humanity. It is the beginning of madness with which we fail to accept any logical reasons on the circumstance. 

It is like an encounter with a snake on our path. The next time we walk through that path, fear comes to us because we allow thoughts to brood and assume. We can’t change the path, we can’t ask snake to be away, perhaps we can avoid the path, but if we do not allow confidence to walk with forgiveness and courage, fear and hatred, insecurity and insomnia will slowly kill us. Our hatred have a life long affect on our health. Older we grow more severely our forgotten negative thoughts keep causing irreparable injury within us. We cannot live happier life not solve differences by berating to the world. The healing happens only when we let go and allow ourselves to calm.

This writing helps me to go through an experience with courage and wisdom.

Namgyal Tshering(Kardro Petsher)

Principal, Dechentsemo

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